Tardiness (being late)
...this is usually followed by an excuse
...if you don't do this yourself
...you know someone who does
...it shows complete disrespect for other peoples' time
...it shows that you are unprofessional in the workplace
...it shows that you are unreliable in person
If someone is late for a rendezvous with you, you should speak up
...instead of saying "ok lang un"
...unfortunately, many of you don't speak up
...because of 'nahihiya ako eh'
...if you do that, you both lose
If you are late yourself, apologize and don't offer excuses
...maybe we should see proper examples of this on TV as well
Try this experiment
...when you set up a rendezvous with a friend of yours
...make a tally of how many times these friends of yours are late
...to see if it's true or not
...mark how many times you have set up an appointment
...mark how many times your friend is late
If they are late, pay attention to what they say
...do they say sorry?
...or do they make excuses?
...or do they laugh and try to 'high five' you and say 'Filipino Time, pare!'
Out of how many times your friends are late
...mark how many times you actually 'spoke up'
...and mark how many times you say 'ok lang yun'
And do you ever notice that sometimes when they are late
...and when they know they are going to be late
...they will never tell you ahead of time that they are going to be late
...they will wait for hours AFTER the appointed time of rendezvous
...to tell you that they are late, or can't make it
...the amount of stupidity there just boggles the mind
I also have this theory that when 2 Filipinos set a meeting time
...one of them intentionally arrives late
...because they predict the other one will arrive late anyway
The perpetuation of idiocy.
Excuses (dahilan)
...this falls under (rationalization)
...apologize and take responsibility for your actions instead
...the more you acknowledge your mistakes
...the more you learn what it is about you that needs to change
...the more emotionally secure you become
...the more you set yourself up for positive personal growth
...when you make excuses, you don't acknowledge your mistakes
...you won't know what it is about you that needs to change
...you don't grow as a person and become insecure
Who does the archer blame when he misses the bullseye?
...the arrow?
...the bow?
...the target?
...the wind?
...or himself?
Praying (pagdarasal)
...most people pray because they want something from God
...this shows an inability to accomplish something on your own
...this shows a lack of self-confidence that you have to rely on 'God' to do it for you
When you accomplish something
...you don't take credit for it either
...you give 'God' credit
...and none for yourself
...you have no control over your fate
What you need to realize is that when you accomplish something
...it is because of YOU
...it is your hard work
...it is your diligence
...it is your own sweat and blood
...it was NOT because of God
...it was because of you
...take credit for your own success
...take charge of your own life
...take charge of your own destiny
If you don't accomplish something (when you lose or fail)
...you just say 'God did not will it'
...again, you just spared yourself accountability
...when in fact you did something wrong
...you just refused to acknowledge it
...find out what it is you did wrong
Your accomplishments belong to you
...not God
Your failures belong to you
...not God
Where is your individuality?
...where is your free will?
Indirectness
...why can't Filipinos just say what they mean
...and mean what they say?
Get to the point, people.
Americans
Boy 1: Can you turn up the volume please?
Boy 2: Sure.
Filipinos
Boy 1: Can you hear the TV?
Boy 2: Yeah, why?
Boy 1: I can't hear it.
Boy 2: Maybe you should have your ears checked.
Boy 1: Too expensive.
Boy 2: Maybe you should get a better job.
Boy 1: What's wrong with my job now?
Boy 2: I just thought you might not be earning enough.
Boy 1: I'm happy with my job though.
Boy 2: It just doesn't pay enough.
Boy 1: Do you think it should?
Boy 2: You tell me.
Filipinos also love to use the word "one" whenever they write something
...if you read Philippine newspapers you will see the word "one" innumerably
..."one has to..."
..."one needs..."
..."one does..."
This is a form of indirectness
...the writer does not want to address you (the reader) directly
...they don't want accountability for what they say
...so they say one instead of you, we, us, I...
Filipino writer says...
...I never said 'You need to do this and that.'
...I merely said 'One needs to do this and that.'
...not my fault
...I'm not accountable
...I'm not responsible
Indirectness is a very "female" attribute
...it's usually females who are indirect
I can understand when females are indirect
...but when I see males do the same thing
...oh, my, fucking, God
Not only is the Philippines a nation of Servants
...it's also a nation of Females
Get to the fucking point, people!
Gossip (chisme)
Whenever you hear someone say
...'Pssst, I heard...'
...ask them 'Did you really hear that from someone, or are you just starting gossip?'
...then follow up with 'Who did you hear it from?'
...then 'How reliable is your source of information?'
...then 'Would you be willing to put that on record?'
This is a form of indirectness
...if you (a Filipino) have a problem with someone, you will never confront that person directly
...instead you will resort to gossip and tell other people what your problem is with the other person
...or worse, you will tell other people that other people have problems with this person
...when in fact, it's you and you alone who has a problem with them
...you just say it's other people who have problems with this person
...because you don't want the gossip to be traced back to you
...because you don't want to hold accountability
If you are gossiping about someone, you are essentially stabbing them in the back
...what does that say about you?
...it means you will never be viewed as someone to be friends with
If you have a problem with someone, don't gossip to other people about them
...talk to them and confront them in private (not in public)
...and no, you may not bring someone with you as an ally when you confront someone else
True friends stab you in the front.
Gossip results in erosion of trust and morale
...it breaks bonds between people
Great minds discuss ideas
...average minds discuss events
...small minds discuss people
Eleanor Roosevelt
It's been through my personal experience that even college-educated people gossip
...I guess you can be 'Educated' and have a 'small' mind
...how sad
It's been through my personal experience that even college-educated people gossip
...I guess you can be 'Educated' and have a 'small' mind
...how sad
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